Wednesday, May 18, 2016
Why do you think the two of you didn't get along toward the end?
First of all, it wasn't just toward the end. This had been a long time coming. I can't even remember when it started, probably when I was in middle school. But basically he loved baseball and wanted me to love it, too, which I didn't. That somehow diminished me in his eyes.
Do you really believe that?
Yes, of course.
But if you're his son, why would something like that make a difference?
My guess is that he expected me to be a certain person and then I turned out to be someone else. I let him down in a way. It's hard to say, but that's my guess.
Did you ever ask him?
How the hell would I do that? You don't just ask someone if you've disappointed them. How does that conversation even work? “Hey dad, do I disappoint you?” People don't talk like that.
No, I just meant, did you ever check in with him to see what was going on in his life?
I don't follow.
Like, maybe he was disappointed in himself and not you?
Why would he be disappointed in himself?
I don't know, but that might be an interesting question to ask.
Sure. “Uh, dad, are you disappointed in yourself?” That seems realistic.
More like, “Hey dad, are you happy?”
Yeah, I can see that. No, I never asked him, but I can see it. It seems kind of corny, but... I dunno, maybe we're just too stubborn. Someone would have to make the first move, you know?
Why not you?
Why not him?
It's not that simple. It's not like we just decided to be done with each other, it was a natural evolution.